The Rise of Online Sports Betting — And Why Gambling Belongs in This Conversation Too A few years ago, gambling addiction and marriage rarely came up together in premarital work. Now it comes up regularly, and I don't think that's a coincidence. Since a 2018 Supreme Court decision opened the door ...read more
The Secrets That Quietly Break Marriages — And why precommitment therapy helps
The Secrets That Quietly Break Marriages — And why precommitment therapy helps Over the years, I've sat with more couples than I can count in the aftermath of a hidden addiction coming out — a drinking problem that had been minimized for years, a pornography habit that had quietly become ...read more
Sliding vs. Deciding: Why How You Got Here Matters
Sliding vs. Deciding: Why How You Got Here Matters I ask a lot of couples how they ended up living together, or engaged, or committed to each other for the long haul. What surprises me is how often the honest answer is some version of "it just kind of happened." A lease was ending. A move made ...read more
The Argument That Predicts Divorce Isn’t the One You Think
If you ask most couples what they think will cause the biggest fights down the road, they'll usually guess in-laws, or how often to see friends, or who does the dishes. Almost nobody guesses money — and that surprises me every time, because the research keeps saying otherwise. In fact, money ...read more