Learn about each other
This week I’d like to draw your attention to one of my favorite blogs that is focused on marriage from the Gottman Institute, but which applies to all our relationships.
They write about how in a healthy relationship, the best thing we can develop is a CURIOSITY about each other’s feelings.
Tell me your feelings…(by the way, these are the 4 most important words)
When our partner or friend is either happy or hurting, we can develop an attitude that their feelings are so important that we will stop what we are doing and listen.
And when we listen, the best response is to reflect back what we are hearing without judgement or trying to fix them.
Sometimes when we are feeling negative we just need someone to hear us out. It’s that simple, but you can put it into practice today.
What do I have to do?
All you have to do is ask how they are doing and if they say “I’m fine,” encourage them to elaborate on what they mean by “fine.”
My hope and prayer is that you are able to listen and reflect more with your partner or friend this week. This skill can be developed and it will improve all of your relationships.
If you want more great tips focused specifically on marriages, definitely check out the Marriage Minute from the Gottman Institute.