It is wonderful to see fast breakthroughs or positive changes in our lives, especially if they are long awaited. On a counseling journey, however, this may be the exception rather than the rule.
The best and most lasting change comes slowly, like the proverbial butterfly emerging from a chrysalis.
Walking the slow path of change enables us to learn new thoughts and behaviours that sustain the changes, preventing us from falling back into old habits.
What to do when the pace feels too slow or the path too long?
- Breathe deeply once or twice, put your hand on your heart and remember people and things you love and are grateful for. Stay with the positive feelings that arise for at least 15 seconds– the time it takes for the good feelings to imprint on your brain. If you would like help with this kind of meditation to cultivate gratitude and joy click here.
- Remind yourself that you are loved and look for small kindnesses from Love
each day:
A gorgeous sunrise or sunset
A smile from a stranger, or store service person
Something funny you read or heard
A great song or piece of music
Art that moves your soul
- Talk with a trusted friend or therapist. I would love to support your journey and
invite you to contact me.
- Try to tolerate the uncomfortable feelings of the slow path, allowing them to be
there. You may find they teach you some invaluable lessons and eventually they
will pass. Change is one of life’s certainties.